Beitza 32b

1– Our Gemara delves into Agadata with a few interesting observations:

A- Rav was not fond of some of the Gvirim of Bavel, saying they were not charitable. He went as far as doubting their Jewish linage! 

B- Someone who doesn’t know where his next meal will come from is considered as if ‘his world is dark’. We spoke about the ‘teg’ where Yeshiva  Bochurim would eat every night at a different home.

…hmm, where am I eating tonight?

[We mentioned the בית הלוי and his explanation of what Yosef told his brothers:

‘don’t worry, I will not take revenge on you for selling me as a slave. On the contrary, I will provide all your needs.’

He meant to say that the fact that you will always need me to support you is punishment enough….]

C- Three kinds of people whose lives are not considered ‘living’.

1- He who is so poor he waits to be invited so he can eat a meal.

2- He whose wife controls him.

3- He who suffers debilitating pain.

We spent time exploring various explanation on the Gemara in Brachos concerning the two types of marriages.

The מצא or the מוצא type.

במערבא כי נסיב איניש איתתא אמרי ליה הכי: מצא או מוצא?

The People of Bovel would say: In Israel, when one would get married he would be asked (about his marriage): is your marriage a  מצא or מוצא:

מצא  – דכתיב: ‘מצא אשה מצא טוב ויפק רצון מה’ ”.

He who has found a wife has found good, and has obtained favor from the Lord.

מוצא – דכתיב: ‘ומוצא אני מר ממוות את האשה”

And I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets,

 ברכות ח. א.

Now the Gemara itself does not offer an explanation as to the difference between מצא and מוצא. Both mean ‘finding’ a wife.

We collected so far 6 explanations of interest:

1-     מצא – Found. Past tense. Before one was created it was determined whom he would marry, thus this marriage would be a peaceful one.

Or מוצא present. Meaning he didn’t merit to find his predestined one……(yet)

2-     The GR”A- One only remembers the bad. So מצא means a good marriage, with no need to be reminded of his good luck. מוצא means constant reminder of his choice…..

3-     The problem is the אני in the מוצא. A husband with an ego is not healthy for a marriage….

4-     מצא means a wife who is always at home when the man arrives as opposed to  מוצא who is a wife that the husband need to search for….

5-     וקמץ הכהן ממנה – מלוא קומצו  His blessing to the young couple after their Chupa –  ר’ מאיר שמחה of Dvinsk . 

מצא  has a ‘kometz’……..

6-     ערוך לנר  – Common or rare. מצא means a rare lucky find. He who found a wife and has a great marriage.  

מוצא means an a common find, a ‘standard’ wife.

Taaffeite – very rare

2– We spoke about the creation of an Ohel. The ‘tent’ created by covering the children with a Talis on Simchas Torah.

More next week.

3– From last week. Our Gemare discussed ‘plates of the farmers’. Basically a flat piece earthenware with no indentation. We discussed the origin of the expression ‘room and board’.

4- We mentioned the Chasam Soifer who was asked the following. Our Gemora has an issue finding a purpose for allowing or prohibiting the forming of coal. What can someone do with it on Yom Tov other than using to melt gold or other metals.

The question is why not say that one needed the coal to heat a Mikvah. The CS delves into the history of heating Mikvas and if it prevalent in the time of the Sha”s.